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Here is an example of an advice column letter, originally sent to Ann Landers, one of the most famous advice columnists in the USA. Read it and give the writer some advice on her problem!
Here is an example of an advice column letter, originally sent to Ann Landers, one of the most famous advice columnists in the USA. Read it and give the writer some advice on her problem!
Dear Ann Landers: I am planning to marry the love of my life in June. "Phillip" is a terrific guy, except when it comes to my 12-year-old daughter, "Beth," who is very sweet but has attention-deficit disorder. Phillip does not understand that she needs to be reminded of things over and over. When he asks her to do a chore, he expects her to jump to it immediately. He doesn't realize that Beth is distracted easily and forgets. She isn't being deliberately disobedient.I think Phillip is being too hard on Beth when he says she needs more discipline. I agree that Beth may resent Phillip's presence in my life, but it doesn't help when he yells at her all the time. I love him dearly, but I'm having second thoughts about what marrying him might do to my daughter. Help me make the right choice. — Unsure in Baltimore
Prepare a response that gives advice to "UNSURE IN BALTIMORE" about her problem. What can she do about her situation? Be sure to use words like "should, could, might and may."
Remember to follow the paragraph structure we're been working on in class. Prepare your answer of 4-6 sentences in paragraph form, and publish it in the comments below!
Remember to follow the paragraph structure we're been working on in class. Prepare your answer of 4-6 sentences in paragraph form, and publish it in the comments below!
Well! This is a serious problem because as you told me, you love him and you want to marry him. I think you should try one more time to explain to him what is happening to your daughter and you dont´t want him to treat her like he is using to. If you already talked to him about this problem and he doesn´t understand how you feel about it, you might have to say good bye to him, because your daughter is way more important than him. You will have a lot of time to find somebody who really accept you and either way your daughter. Try to tell him what you think about his attitude and if he doesn´t to change it, you already know what you have to do.
ReplyDeleteYonat Suero
20140071
Oh dear! I really feel your pain about this situation. I know you feel something for Phillip but I think your daughter is more important than him. You should try to explain to him again how you feel about the attitude he's taking to your daughter. Do not be shy if you have to argue with him because he loves you, he have to accept your daughter with her problems. Otherwise, you are going to have a lot of time to find another person to be with you, so don't be afraid to brake with him if you feel you should because if he doesn't understand how you feel about this and doesn't treat your daughter right, he is not the man for you. Hope you could resolve your problem, no worries that they are more fishes in the see that are worth it than hm, kisses
ReplyDelete- LA
2014-0615
Hi dear friend! I read your letter and i am sorry for your difficult situation and this moment.
ReplyDeleteYou should to take your time to think about your future decision. Beth is your daughter and you should to do the best for her, but you love Philips and you would like to marry with him. I and your situation i will go with a profesional to help me because Philips don't understand. And other things you can do is talk with him , if he love you so much he have to understand you and accept your daughter. You should to think and after you have to take the best decision for you .
My friend I wish you the best and your life
Before to recommend anything , you must know that your daughter is first that all. The men you will marry must understand if you will marry you , must love and respect your daughter because she is your daughter and he must love her as his daughter. If really loves you , he will understand that he must help your daughter as if was his daughter , if you really know what it means to have a child. I recommend that talk with he about situation and if he really loves you and wants to be with you , he will understand the situation. As a parent you will make your daughter , he should take responsibility to educate and help with her problem. If really loves your daughter you will make the best decision.
ReplyDeleteMaria de los A. Guzman Rodriguez 2012-0372
Before you marry him you should talk about the situation that is happening with him and your daughter. He should understand that she has an attention deficit disorder and be more understanding with her and love her as well as she is. If after you speaking with him he doesn't change I recommend you not marry him. You should marry with someone who loves and cares your daughter . If you marry with him you probably will continue having problems. She's only a young girl of 12 years old and she needs a lot of love. If he loves you he may understand your daughter. Remember that her is more important than a man and she needs you.
ReplyDeleteShe needs to understand that his daughter is first for everything. She should help her attention deficit and bring it to a special school. Then I would recommend you speak with Phillip and explain in more detail the situation and he must understand the thing. He can help but not be so hard on her because if he hard with her she can take it another way and also things by crook they are more difficult to achieve than for good, whether it should be more accommodating to her because she acts like his problem not because she wants to. Otherwise she must choose between Phillip and his daughter.
ReplyDeleteJuan Bisono
2010-1275
I think you should think about the welfare of your daughter first. Such Might turn out to Phillip where a professional who knows Beth disorder and explain to Phillip so he can understand the condition of your daughter. But if he does not want to understand or accept the condition of Beth then I think you should not marry. Well I think you should marry someone of you agree and accept the condition of your daughter and can help during his lifetime.
ReplyDeleteI think you should talk to him and explain more the situation of her problem, you should give to him to choose, number one "accept your daughter how she is" and number two "don't marry", if he won't accept the number one is because he don’t love you, because a person who love supports all to be with that person.
ReplyDeleteI think you should talk seriously with Phillip about the situation with Beth. He isn't your husband and he already yells at Beth all the time. Imagine what could happen if you marry him. You have to try to make Phillip understand about Beth disorder. If Phillip understands the situation the family would be happier. The bonds between the family would be stronger too.
ReplyDeleteHi UNSURE IN BALTIMORE, I'm glad to reply you.That is a complex situation... I think you should go with him (Phillip) to a psychologist specialized in cases like that. Also, an expert will tell you if Phillip can change his situation with your daughter. Everyone might change their way of being. But, for now I think that you shouldn't marry him, just relax and keep talking to him for improve his way of being.
ReplyDeleteI think you should postpone the wedding, take some time to be sure if "Phillip" is a good father to your daughter. Talk to your fiance and explain that "Beth" needs comprencion of both and that he should´n be so hard with her. Maybe you should take Beth with a psychologist for help with her problem. Then when you're sure you could live well together and be a good family, you should keep on
ReplyDeletewith the wedding plans.
Bianka González 2013-1158
Dear Unsure in Baltimore: You accept that Philip the love of your life is a terrific guy, except when it comes to his daughter Beth. Therefore, you should talk with him about this situation before you marry in June with him, because then you may consider if you want stay with him. He would be a father figure for her and then, he can't treat to Beth of this form, because it isn't healthy for her. You might try to find a therapist to help him understand how you can live with a girl who has attention-deficit disorder. To do this you need time, so you could delay the wedding.
ReplyDeleteI think that you have to talk whith him and tell him al this thing that you are thinking and feeling. The reason that I say this to you is because that is goin to help you to make a desition and make your comunication more easy to you. You have to tell him that he cant talk to her dougther in the way that he do, because she have an especial condiction, he cont not be to hard whith her. You have the key in your hands, talk whint him an organize your mind quikly and try to thinking if you want to spend your life ehist this guy or you not want to estay whith him.
ReplyDeleteDear "UNSURE IN BALTIMORE"... It's a difficult situation that is happening to you right now, at first time you should awareness phillip about the situation of your daughter Beth,if this doesn't improve is better that you three goes to terapies where Phillip and Beth can relate in a better way. You can't expose your child abuse because her problems, You are a mother first and then a wife. You can organize activities with them where You can explain to Phillip how he should react with beth behavior, this would also help to Beth developmen , is not late to fix the relationship between Phillip and Beth, You could have a good results if you have patience and love , to fisinish You might take time with Beth she needs you so much... I hope my advice help...
ReplyDeleteI think Ann should find a solution to her problem without leaving her future husband and without having to stop taking care of her daughter the way she deserves to be treated. She could sit down her daughter and Baltimore to talk and get to know each other and maybe that way they can see what they like and don't like. Furthermore, and may sit down with Baltimore and talk about the sickness of her daughter, so, when the time of asking Beth for help comes, he could be patient enough and succeed in getting along. I also think that Baltimore should be more considerate with Beth and stop asking for so many favors. Another thing they may consider is give medications to Beth or treat her condition. After taking in considerations the things I have said, I am almost sure that the problems will cease and Ann and Baltimore could get married and start a loving life together.
ReplyDeleteDear “Unsure in Baltimore”: your case is very sensitive, because it’s about your DAUGHTER and the love of your life. I know you love your daughter like nobody, and you understand her problem. The only thing that I say is that you should talk seriously to Phillip, because if he will be probably your husband, he can’t be strong with your daughter when you don’t like that. When you have talked to him, you must make sure that he understand perfectly the problem that Beth has, then, your plan about marry with him don’t’ have to be affected when you two can talk about problems like this. Finally, you should work in Beth about her problem, because I know she can learn and get better when it comes about chores.
ReplyDeleteHe has to realize that she got a problem, because if he asks her to do something and she is distracted easily and forgets many things. He should be calm down because is too difficult to treat with a person that has that kind of trastorn and you don’t know about it. You could talk and explain him about that inconvenient. And if you are planning to marry, you as a couple may looking for a solution together like: in the internet or talking with a specialist. If you don’t see any change in him you should break up the relationship because if she treats your daughter like that as her brother in love imagine as her father.
ReplyDeleteJean Carlos Polanco Sosa
2013-0535
Your daughter is more important in your life than Phillip. You should talk with him about the problem. He could be more mature and accept her problem. He may asks your daughter less things to do. And if he can't do this you should go out of his life, and be focus just in you and your daughter life.
ReplyDeleteCindy Espaillat
2013-0337
Well, sincerely, you shouldn’t marry him because your daughter should be your priority. And if he can’t understand that she has problems, you should make you and your daughter a favor, telling him to get out of your life. Another thing you may do is to go with Phillip to a psicologist and see if she or he can help you and make that Phillip can understand more your daughter. Also, you should tell Phillip that you’re having second thoughts about marrying him because of his treat to your daughter. Maybe this would do that he changes his way with her.
ReplyDeleteRosanna Guzmán (2013-0609)